Deep Thoughts & Life Lessons
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“I cannot handle relationships anymore; I am
done with it.”
To
“Thank you, life, for making me experience some
of the best moments with my loved one”
The motto of writing this post is to make people aware of emotional breakdown and how to handle it. Of course, I had a breakdown at one point in time and I know how painful it is but because of my hectic schedule, I could never make out time to write and publish this. Currently, I am holidaying in GOA and have time to pen down my thoughts. If in case tomorrow anyone reading my post gets benefits in dealing with emotional breakdown or depression, then my effort in writing this will be merited.
Since I am married and father to a girl child revealing my
personal things will be a disregard to my current relationship, So I will
start from the point when I was passing through a serious breakdown, which is
one of the most painful times I have come across in life. For a person like me who
is very enthusiastic, is into sports/travel/business and always made fun of
people who were having breakdowns during my college days but who knew destiny
had written my number one day.
To be honest it was the darkest phase of my life. Trust me,
the relationship between love and pain goes like this, the more true the love
is…the harder is the pain(breakdown). If it is not like that then, maybe you
were in a use & throw relationship or not in a serious relationship.
My experience of this was like, no one other than her looked me prettier nor
made me attracted. She was the most beautiful one I can ever wish to have in my
life <fat/ skinny/ dark/ fair makes no difference>.
There are many ways to deal with breakups as mentioned in internet,
but I will share my part.
Please note: For me, Love and physical intimacy are different things.
Being physical without emotions is the same as masturbation, it has nothing to do
with love. I have absolutely no problem if people engage in physical intimacy
without any emotional connection coz it is a personal call.
My post is clearly intended
towards love, which is as pure as your prayer < Zero adulteration >.
Don’ts
RULE 1: First and foremost be respectful to your X , as you were when you were
in relationship and NEVER-EVER share anything to anyone that your partner would
have shared with you in private. If you do so then this is the worst you can do
to them.
RULE 2: No matter how big the pain is, always remember your family loves you
more than anyone else and they need your support in the future. Don’t even think of
hurting yourself in any means during this time.
Rule 3: Don’t go into any kind of addiction, it will make the situation even
worse.
Do’s
<MY WAY>:
RULE 1: Start meditating and make your mind stable. Start with just 10 min and
slowly make it to 30min over a period of 30 days. It's damn difficult but you
have to make it. Slowly infuse Anulom Vilom with this. You will see a great
change in your energy level.
RULE 2: You will definitely have anxiety attacks but instead of thinking about what
happened wrong rather cherish the good moments you shared together. Be grateful
to life having blessed you with such moments, not everyone gets this. Feel
happy that you had someone caring and loving person in your life.
RULE 3: Start watching life lessons in YouTube. Sharing some the videos that had
worked for me.
· Start
reading self-healing books. Sharing some of them that had worked for me.
·
Meet
with friends who understand you and share the problem with someone who has
already been through this phase <your relatives can also be your counselor>.
·
Take
a break, go out for a vacation. Think about your future activities of
engagement.
·
Start
working on a mission mode for a new project in any discipline as your wish. Set
a target and try to achieve it. Make a list of long-term goals <quarterly and
annually> and short-term goals <monthly>.
RULE 4: “Solution to one girl is another girl”. This is the most bakwass ("wrong" in adulterated connotation) or presumption anyone can have. You can never make
true love to someone, it happens naturally.
RULE 5: Start feeling happy for your partner when they have good times in their
life. Its absolutely normal to congratulate them on their small/big
achievements. It can be very much possible that your partner will move on fast
than you, accept it with gratitude coz if it was true love then he/she would
have also passed through the same pain as you.
True love is seeking each other happiness and seeing both
grow and do good in life (even if you are not together anymore).
FINAL NOTE
Since I have crossed this painful phase, I still wish my kids
to experience true love in life. It is the best feeling one can ever have.
Currently, for me, love has transformed. I am experiencing the
same emotions in the eyes of my daughter. No doubt why daughters are so dear to
their fathers. For me she is the world to me.
I have encountered my second love eventually, the projects I
am into, are my babies. I am taking care of them at the best of my capabilities.
It's rightly said you never fall in love once, there are many
forms to it. GOD has given us one life and many emotional phases. Lets be
grateful to all the good times we had and pray for many such good moments in
future.
Wishing you all the very best in life.
Signing off.
